Ever had a “poor me” moment? Genine experiences a foreign emotion.

23 Mar

Indulge me readers. I am having a “poor me” moment.

Genine has a 'poor me' moment

Those of you who follow our blog will know that is a rare occurrence indeed. I’m the ‘glass half-full’ half of the Alli & Genine combo. Alli’s normally the one to have a big girly cry. Well, the tables have turned.

So, I have been slaving away for a good few weeks now, pulling 16-hour (or more) days and have hardly seen my husband. It’s been all work and certainly no play.

I am tired, cranky and desperately need a massage. My normally strict diet and exercise regime has been neglected and I haven’t cut my toenails in far too long (they are a disgrace!). I have taken to pulling my hair up in a tight bun each day because I don’t have the time to wash and blow-dry it.

Kim Kardashian realised she didn't have time to get her nails done

And my house? Let’s just say that the knock on my door right now could be coming from those two old English birds from How Clean Is Your House ?– with gloves firmly in place. Hope it is!

The ladies from House Clean Is Your House? are knocking on Genine's door

Our dog hasn’t been walked in two weeks and is growing more frustrated every day (she even tries to play ball when I am sitting on the loo). The cobwebs have taken over. And if anyone had asked me to do another thing yesterday at work I may well have eaten them, screamed at them or called them a nasty name. I am stressed, fragile and experiencing mini panic attacks. Poor, poor me.

The I went to the bank. I was in my ‘I am so busy, poor me, blah blah blah’ mode. The teller (let’s call her Maria, ‘cause that is her name) took me into an office to help me with my banking issues. “Tappity tap, banking, money, banking, blah blah, I have five children, blah blah …” Hold the phone. “Five children?” I asked. Yep, five kids, 15 months to 19 years, full-time job, soccer, school, lunches etc. All as a single mum. I had just found Superwoman.

Who knew Superwoman held a second job at the bank?

I walked out of the bank trying to imagine what would happen if I threw a kid into my busy life. I mean, how can one woman juggle that many kids and a career and remain sane?

Then I chatted with our new web developer, the lovely Michelle from Little Hero Hosting. Now, I have not actually met Michelle, so I can’t say for certain, but I’d bet my last dollar that she is decked-out in high-waited blue undies and some sort of strapless gold top with arm shields, just like Wonder Woman. She, like Maria, has five kids. Yep, five little heroes whom she manages to feed, water, clothe, discipline, bathe and put to bed each day, with a story or two before bed, all while emailing and chatting to me throughout the night. Little Hero Hosting? Aptly named in my book.

Does Wonder Woman exist? Genine thinks so!

Next, I was chatting to Alli on the phone and we were updating each other about what we had achieved and what still needed to get done. I had a little tanty and told her that I simply could not fit another thing into my day. I was far, far too busy and exhausted.

After hanging up the phone, I realised something. My business partner, the other half of Alli & Genine and dear, special friend, does exactly what I do each and every day … and then some.

You see, through all my carry-on about how terribly important and busy I was, I forgot that there is a true super-hero right next to me (well, an hour down the road). Just like me, Alli is a wife. She is also a business owner and a work-a-holic. But the one thing Alli is that I am not, is a mum. And Alli is a darned good one at that (although she won’t admit to it).

So today my friend, my blog is for you. This is my chance to tell you that I think you are a wonderful, special woman, who is so driven and inspiring and I am proud to call you my business partner and friend. I sometimes forget how amazing you are.

Genine thinks Alli is hiding some big blue undies under her kaftan (image courtesy Studio Republic)

This post is also for Maria and Michelle – super-hero mums who juggle it all. It is for all you mums out there who work hard, like I do, but do it all while juggling a family – you are my super-heroes.

So it’s time I realised that, yes, it is okay to have a “poor me” moment, but in the end I too have to pull up my big girl’s panties (or in the case of Alli, Michelle and Maria, their Wonder Woman / Superwoman undies) and get on with it. Lesson learned.



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6 Responses to “Ever had a “poor me” moment? Genine experiences a foreign emotion.”

  1. Sue Murphy March 23, 2012 at 4:03 pm #

    Yep, I get it. Again you make me laugh and get a real perspective on things in our everyday life. Love it. I had lunch with a fashion designer friend, my age, no kids. She was super stressed about loads of stuff. All very real and probably very stressful. I couldnt help thinking the whole time ‘but you’ve got no kids!’
    To me it always comes back to that cause I have three, run a business and have a part time job. I actually dont know how the hell I do it.
    But seriously, we all do what we do. Even without kids I would probably be just as busy and just as stressed.
    We’re al actually pretty jolly amazing I wreckon.
    I get frustrated hearing about the single Mum with 5 kids and a full time job. Seriously, HOW is that all possible??? God bless her and for goodness sake give her some help!!
    If I had money I’d be giving all these ladies a holiday, a massage, a cleaner…….. Cause I know for sure, thats what I would love.
    Youre cool Genine. Whats busy for you is certainly busy for you.

  2. Marney Perna March 23, 2012 at 11:45 am #

    Girls you have to understand…”we are women” hear us roar in all of our glory and hats:) We are the premium multi-taskers and lets face we actually love it and wouldn’t have it any other way.
    Also it is so good for your “stress bucket” to acknowledge and release some of that brooding emotional tangle before it becomes a tsunami.
    Cheers and have a great day:)

    • alli & genine March 23, 2012 at 12:57 pm #

      Marney, you’re a gem. Words of wisdom indeed! You have a lovely day too! A&G x

  3. Kylie Huckstepp March 23, 2012 at 8:08 am #

    Just read the above and that sounds a bit rude to Allki – sorry! where is the delete button – just talkin bout myself not you Alli…aaagh poor me!

    • alli & genine March 23, 2012 at 8:22 am #

      Kylie – that’s TOTALLY me! Not at ALL offended. I am a BIG FAT CRIER – I’m out and proud! That’s what our world is about, really, owning our issues and challenges and doing you best. ALL GOOD!!!!! Alli xx

  4. Kylie Huckstepp March 23, 2012 at 8:06 am #

    Oh yeah – I must be like Alli – I am keen on a big girly cry and my poor me moments are fairly frequent!

    But don’t be too hard on yourself Genine – you fit an awful lot into your life and the worst thing for us women is we ALWAYS are the ones who feel somehow responsible (even if we have a cleaner) for how our house looks! (Not sure that I could EVER have handled 5 kids ~)

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